The "Ex" Factor

many relationship feuds. If children weren't involved why should there be a need for the constant communication and late and early morning contacts when both parties have moved on clearly there was a reason they both separated or did they take a break and you just got caught in the middle of the break or someone wants to have his or her and eat it.

I recently saw a quote "I don't have any ex, if we break up I just dont know you". Amen to this mostly because I find it hilarious. It is also a feminine statement which some women find very practical and logical . Yes it is okay to Keep good friendships relationship after a breakup but there must be boundaries. Set boundaries, established these boundaries from early and these boundaries should be respected on both sides and communication between the two should not seem as if it is privately hidden.

Most times these boundaries are not established and the other party is lead to believe that there is no one in the other persons life hence it gives them leverage to do as they please. The problem is further compounded when the four letter word has no proper foundation. There is most times one party who doesn't trust and one who does or both say they do but in reality a plan B and C is being executed as a just in case the other party cheats atleast you won't feel too bad. In any of these scenarios how can a relationship flourish without trust and even an ounce of commitment.
Relationships are already complexed and the addition of a third party especially the factoring in of an ex who won't move on makes the dynamics challenging.

Solving the issue of the EX factor is not an easy task. It is also not for you to jump in and solve if it is not your ex. Evaluate your relationship, know what you want and what you are Willing to accept from your partner and what ever your decision is make sure you are happy with it. Do not agree to compromise just to make that person stay with you.
Think about it, the EX cannot constantly be making contact without being given that authority. At the end of the day if they decide to back there ain't nothing you can do about it so if you find that an Ex is constantly resurfacing and it seems like it is no big deal maybe it is time to pack up and leave. Just maybe you are the third wheel and NOT the EX.

To the Ex Factors who are guilty of committing these offenses take time to evaluate your actions. Whether or not your actions are invited look at the flip side. At times you May feel you have a right of passage but Remember karma Wakes up early these days. Your turn is next. Do not pretend as if your unaware the person has moved on. There must be a reason your late night text and calls go unanswered and the early morning ones goes to voice mail. He or she is in full lock down.

If he or she really wants you in their life they will sort out their mess. Never sacrifice your happiness. If this man or woman truly Loves you and want to make more happen from the relationship they would have established the necessary boundaries. Love is not partial or should it be limited to how you approach sensitive issues concerning your Love ones.