So while browsing on Facebook I came across a Steve Harvey Video. This one wasn’t like the others i had seen before; in fact I wasn’t ready for this one. Take a look at this.

ARE you dumb founded? Speechless? I was then I had to watch it again. This relationship obviously lacks a lot of trust. Must be very unhealthy and this woman is a crazy blonde. WHY would anyone want to put themselves through this? WHY WHY WHY ? Then I watched the video again and again and it had me thinking.

Relationships are complex, well people are complex and it takes a lot of work to have a successful relationship. At any given time in a relationship one or both parties may feel insecure and this is sometimes expressed in different forms. Jeanne said she used to nag a lot and she realized the damage it was doing to their relationship. All that stopped when they came up with the brilliant (not that I approve) idea to have her sign his Penis whenever he is going out and at that point she would take a picture of his signed (erected or limped) private parts. On his return the signatures must match and this would prove he did not cheat. Unable to speak after listening to Jeanne describe what takes place in their relationship before her boyfriend leaves to enjoy his guy time John Duffy, a clinical psychologist on Harvey's team tried to gather his thoughts while questioning his years of experience and eventually had no choice but to awarded Jeanne credits for originality even though it was stemming from her mistrust.

Tiffanie Davis Henry, a licensed a psychotherapist said “ The moment you whip out the sharpie of bic whatever you’re using, the moment you do that and start to write your name you already don’t trust him. So my question is why go through the writing of the name, taking the picture you’re doing a lot of work. Why do that for someone you don’t trust?” My question would be directed to the holder of the penis. Why does he allow her to do it? Why would you stay with someone that does that?

The relationship is in its 7th year….Four out of which the signing have been taking place and as surprised as we are the bottom line is IT WORKS FOR THEM. So regardless of our different opinions to this “Weird” approach to making her feel secure they are okay with it. Maybe he loves her and is willing to do what it takes to make it work. It could be that all the other components of their relationship is perfect except this one thing; she doesn’t trust him and this could be because of his actions during the first three (3) years of the relationship. I will not elaborate on “his good looks” that she mentioned since I have never seen the guy and we all have our different opinions when it comes on to that category.

I had a good laugh at the facial expressions Steve pulled out and when they joked around telling different ways Jeanne’s boyfriend could get around without smudging the signature it made it clear that as original as her plan maybe it is not bullet proof. This is something i think she knows yet she still has been doing it for four (4) years. A relationship needs this. This is what relationships need these days. This is what is LACKING.

HELL NO , NOT SIGNING OF PRIVATE PARTS.

The Best realtionships for me are the ones where each person is allowed to maintain his/her individuality while being in a relationshp. In a relationship no one owns anyone. There is no bill of receipt for him or he hold the title to the mortgage payment for her. it takes two mature persons to truly understand that no one is the other's property. People are not fixed assest. Lets get real. Relationships requires team work, a level of commitment that both of you are willing to work as a team and come up with an amicable solutions and keep trying to make it work. It requires a middle ground “compromising” and understanding.

Yes Yes yEs

Her method is a bit extreme (scratch that) HER METHOD IS VERY EXTREME but who are we to BICTATE i meant dictate from the outside what should or shouldn’t work for them. SEVEN YEARS lets count … 1, 2, 3, 4, 5,6,7… there are marriages lasting less than a year these days and don’t even mention the increase in divorce rates. So whatever you do in your relationship to compromise and keep it together keep working at it. There are too many unhappy single persons who are heading to retirement already so if you can find that one man or woman who is willing to go the extra mile to make sure you are happy and comfortable then by all means

GO FOR IT.