I managed to put together a list:
1. Never create a situation of doubt if it can be prevented, you will run the risk of parallel insecurity.
2. We must never assume the other is okay or we run the risk of taking each other for granted.
3. Most people assume that their actions are accepted by their partners or should be accepted.
4. He said " I will continue to do the things that makes me happy but most importantly i will do the things that pleases you to make you happy". By doing this each person is responsible for their own happiness but at the same time we should do things that will add to the happiness of our partners life. You need to take full responsbibilty for your own happiness it is not yoru partners responsibility.
5. Both persons in a relationship should understand the responsibilities. It should be clear what each role is. Responsibilities mean the expectations of you, define the relationship and each tell what is the destination. The standards and values should aslo be discussed.
6. In a relationship you must be able to learn something from each other. It is in this learning process we get to understand more about the other person.
7. Persons who do not know who why are should not attempt to start a relationship. iI you do not know who you are you cannot share what you don't know about yourself with anyone else.
8. Meeting a compatible partner is the easy part, learning to live with the differences is the hard part but it boils down to one word " compromising".
9. We can all agree that communication is key and we demand it but how many of us are excellent communicators? Over time we say what we want when we feel like it. Other times we assume the other person should know us by now.
10. When in doubt, seek clarity.... Don't assume
11. Our greatest fear is to get hurt in a relationship and while it occurs there is no need to feel a non existing hurt before it occurs. We hold back and limit the full growth of the relationship fearing the end even when it is going great. Give each relationship a new start and let go of the past.
Discussions like this i always embrace as it challenges me mentally and the more in depth the discussion gets the more i learn a lot about my partner and he also learns a lot about me. Learning never stops in a relationship. I am grateful for him and love that with him I can be me always which works both ways. May we continue to strengthen each other.
Sometimes you need to just take a good look in the mirror and ask youself " Am I giving this relationship all that i got or am i just doing enough to keep it going?" The truth is that most of us get really comfortable after we have done a few months or years of service. Being in the other persons life was earned and we sit looking as if we are entitled to it. Work in a relationship never ends and that is why it is important that focus is kept on one person at a time, therefore ensuring that all your energy is spent ensuring that you both are on the same page at all times and that no one is taken for granted.
The best relationships are the ones where each person is allowed to maintain their own individuality while being in a relationship. ~ Dee Hunt
Have a great day!
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