This morning I pulled up in the companies parking lot in my usual spot and I hastily ran to the trunk to select a pair of shoes that matched my outfit. Already late for work I quickly slipped on a pair of red heels that enhanced my pinstriped black pants, black long sleeved cuffed blouse neatly tucked in and the entire ensemble accessorized by white pearl necklace, red pearl earring and my hair neatly placed in a bun. 

 Making my way to my office I had a thought about my selection process in the trunk of the car. Do women select men like they do their shoes? Is the process of selection the same? Can the way how a woman shops for shoes tell something about the way she selects her partners?

 As I sat in my office spinning my chair I began to give it a little more thought. How do single women (shoe lovers) shop for shoes? How do I shop for shoes? 

 Shoes

 Some women will visit the stores in advance and select hot picks; keeping an eye on them waiting until they go on sale before scooping them up.

 Men

Some women will know a man is unavailable yet still put in a request or accept a request and they will wait no matter how long it takes until that person is back on the market. It doesn't matter if they are the side chick or a sex buddy they are waiting. .

 Shoes

 Some women visit the stores and would never consider a shoe unless it is on sale no matter how cute it is. They simple acknowledge and step pass it. The Price is too high to pay, not today. It is not about money. It is just not worth it right now. 

 Men

Some women will see a man they like but no matter what they wont give him the time of day unless he is fully available. No matter how attractive the package looks. He's handsome now moving on.. 

 Shoes

 Then there are some women who just shop when they are down, buying on impulse and then that shoe gets added to the rest of shoes catching dust on the shoe rack as they never get worn enough  to even make a trip to the alter.

 Men

Some women go out and hook up on impulse without thinking and while doing this the ex list adds up and the body mileage adds up and at the end of the day not one relationship makes sense. 

Shoes

 Some women fall head over heel as they see a shoe. No matter what it cost they just have to get it. It is too cute to pass up. they say "It may not be here next week besides it would go well with an outfit at home". Its blue and she has several shades and heights of blue shoes at home but to her it is different.

Men

Some women see a man and fall in love right away. They have already dealt with his type/personality before and it didn’t turn out good yet they convince themselves this one is different from all the rest even before they try it. 

Shoes

 Some women will buy because its on sale and they thought it would be a perfect buy. They take it home and then try to return it the following day.

Men

Some women will meet a guy at an event and get all exited and dive in waist deep then the following day you wish you hadn’t jump in too quickly. Nothing bad has happened as yet that you regret but you realize that you are not feeling the person as much as you thought you did the night before.

HMMMMMMMMMMMMM

 So is the selection process shopping for men and shoes the same? Can the way we approach this important aspect of our closets synonymously linked. I don’t know but it was just a thought I had. 

How do I shop for shoes? 

You’re asking me? 

Okay lets see…

 Shoes

In order for me to shop for shoes I must first have the NEED to shop. Yes of course I love shoes but I dislike spending hours trying on pairs and pairs of shoes. It makes me tired and I lose focus after a few tries. So having a need to get new shoes for work or play I would visit a few stores and browse around picking my styles then narrow it down to needs and cost. Then I fit a few make my selection, pay and head home. 9/10 times if I buy sandals in the mix I leave the store wearing it and YES all my shoes in my closet get worn more than once. So now you know how I shop for My Men…I meant shoes ...

 Men

Those close to me knows i hate shopping for shoes but i love them so for my men i hate it when i have to find a suitable partner but i love men therefore there has to be a need for a man. I would go out and hang out in a few places and have fun browse around but not necessarily there to find a man, just to see the type that hangs out there. I will meet a few involuntary as they are always buying me drinks and from there I make my selection. If we hit it off the bat with chemistry I give it a try and see where it goes .Haha I can't believe i just said this.

SO

We love our shoes just as how we love our men, well when we do have a nice one, so there isn’t a decision to be made which one we love the most. In both places we look for comfort and style, durability/long lasting, height, colour and the right size matters. The right fit is very important to us women.  Men and shoes goes hand in hand so to correct my title I will say:-

Our men and our shoes is a necessity to our existence. We just got to have them, both.

Next time you go shopping for shoes single ladies just  think about it.