When Bestie Duties Calls at 2AM!

and began to read and respond until I began to fall asleep and thought it would be best If I replied in the morning. The alerts kept coming in and again I read but just as I was about to put away the phone until day break I remembered something very important so I got up refreshed my face and started to reply which allowed her the chance to vent and express what was on her mind.

You may say okay what did you remember so I will get to it in a few. My girlfriends and I have always had a relationship that no matter the distance or the time we will be there for each other. No topic is too frivolous to discuss and no matter how many times we have discussed an issue it is always okay to bring it up once more once you are not satisfied with how things may have turned out. At times we end up going over the same issues over and over and over did i say over yes and what ever is being expressed will not be judged and a honest down to earth reply will always be shared. The matter of maintaining close girlfriends or "bestie" should not be taken lightly. It takes a great deal of time and effort to create a bond that is based on alot of trust.

It is a relationship as it requires all the components inorder for it to be successful. It takes patience and understanding, it takes alot of sacrificing of not only time but sacrificing of self and last but not least it takes unconditional love for your sister to allow you to put up with the ups and downs it will come with. Three of my girlfriends I have known since high school days and it is no surprise to date we are still this close.

So what did I remember?

Some time ago I wrote an article entitled "Fighting Death With True Friends". It was a video that showed a young named Gerdi McKeena who is battling cancer and due to her treatment had to loose her beautiful hair. What her eleven girlfriends did as a surprise was to shave their heads and donated their hair. Amazing story it had me in tears; so at 2am this morning I remembered this and it reminded me of my commitment and with that thought sleep fled my eyes and I was up returning the messages until she got to a point where she could calm down and possibly get some sleep. Well as for me it is now 2:55 am and I am here blogging since sleep has not returned.

For those who have besties ensure that you take the task seriously. Do not use a title that comes with huge responsibilities when you have no intention to be there as a support system when you are needed. Be a honest friend and allow others to respect you for being you. To my besties I love you guys so much. You have always being with me through my ups and down and I wouldnt be any where else but be that shoulder when you need to cry. We are a mixture of personalities that works great. There is one that loves to come to the plant store with me, one who loves to shop for household appliances, one who loves clothes and shoes and one who loves jewellry, one who goes for coffee with me and we spend time window shopping, one who tries to teach me the latest dance moves which to date I cannot catch the "one drop" or the "Kotch" dance and we all love to hang out and have a great time at a soca party of just chill at the beach. There are other times we seem very dysfunctional; but at the end of the day we never go to bed upset. There is always a light moment to fill the air with laughter. We have created so many wonderful memories and i hope by the time our great grand kids hears our stories we would be long gone hahahaha

The reality is that at the end of the day we all need a support system. Some of us have church groups, some have close knitted familes and some have friends who are close and precious to them and you call them your brethren or sistren. What ever your support system is ensure that you play your role in giving support and as best as possible be there when you can. These support can make the differnence in your own life when things seem to get a bit rough these are the same persons who will help you to see the light at the end of the tunnel which keeps you going to get you back to living again.

 As for me I now feel like calling another girlfriend and keeping her up but that would be selfish since I have no real emergency so (pulling covers and yawns) back to bed I go to count sheep. Darn, If only the early birds would stop chirping outside my window...night night.