but I think the overall question is why should a relationship of some worth with two persons who feel so overwhelmed with emotions for each other turn around wanting to keep it a SECRET.

Answers may vary some of which we often say, one party is already in a committed relationship hence the latter has to be kept a secret, the stronger of the sexes has ulterior motives about going around seeing other persons so he or she does not want others to know. Could it be that one is an opportunist and is seeking something materialistic or some sexual encounter from the other, or one could be afraid of social stigma where one is well known and have an image to maintain and the other may not seem fit to parade on the his or her arm in public? The flip side is that one or both persons may just be private and do not want their personal life out in the open but this excuse
is limited to persons who have NEVER put their relationship out there. If he or she has a history of telling the world this and you have been dating for over a year and they are yet to put it out there best believe you are a well kept SECRET.

If you're a secret ...you don't go anywhere together, not even a proper planned daylight date to dinner round town unless it is out of town or an impromtu outing to be seen in public, very thing has to be planned which never seems to materialize most times. Yes some are taken to dinner etc best believe the waiter know him or her at their so called favorite restaurant or lounge WHy? That's a secret spot where all the other possible secrets are taken.

If he or she loves taking photos like myself and never suggest or try to take a "selfie" with you best believe you are a WELL KEPT SECRET. btw I do know what selfie means but more and more photos are surfacing with two or more persons claiming it is a selfie

Stop mentioning movies at Carib it's too public Visitations are limited to night stop in whether you go to visit or the person comes to see you. You don't go shopping on the mall unless it's an emergency you both slip into a store and back in the Car professionally so don't expect to hold hands. You don't go grocery shopping together he stays in the parking lot or if he comes in he is usually in another aisle or far behind or looking at labels (my favorite) or she goes at some odd times when you are busy so just give her the cash or plastic. Overall your "public" appearances are always short lived so don't even consider a Sunday stroll at Devon house for ice cream. He or she will always deliver it to your home and then you feel super special don't it?

You're a secret if....Nothing about his or her plans includes you. It is always about her going to hang with her friend or friends or he is going to hang with his friends. Don't feel known if a few of his or her other friends acknowledge you in their presence. They could be told that you're just a good friend.

Secret lover relationships exist even in marriages. Nope not an additional partner. Have you ever constantly met someone whom you know is married but never ever I mean never seen his or her husband or wife even at family Events? not trace...
you may need to launch an investigation?

Secret relationships exist for whatever reasons persons want them for but on the onset of a relationship becoming a secret both parties should be privy to that information. Don't pretend you Love some one and go all out in private and then in public it's as if you're just friends. Whatever the dynamics of your relationship both parties should be on the same page. If you agree to be secret do not try to upgrade your status as you feel to be placed in the spotlight, a relationship is not like burger king, you can't have it your way all the time.

Define your relationship status, know the boundaries and when in doubt seek clarity.