and hide your true feelings about things that he does that annoys the hell out of you and wait and wait until the relationship settles then whoops you start cussing his ass about it?

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“I've been heartbroken. I've broken hearts. That's part of life, and its part of figuring out who you are so you can find the right partner”. Heidi Klum

Then there are some women have no idea what they are looking for. You say you want a soulmate and love and cuddling but the truth is your just a confused set of emotions walking around and settling for anything that feels right at the moment. How do you prevent this? Be true to yourself. Be honest to yourself about what you really want. If it is that you want an occasional Pen-is then say so be straight be bold when you meet men. If you are looking to settle down and start a family stick to w

hat you want but dont be all over the place changing and making the rules as you go along. That is a sure recipe for disaster.

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“..And now you've lost the only thing that ever made you feel alive”  Keith

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Stop hopping from relationship to relationships. Stop making yourself available at 3a.m in the morning for your ex to come hit it up then falls asleep, get up kisses you on the cheeks, tells you that you’re the best he ever had and leaves knowing you wont hear from him again until another three or so weeks when he calls claiming he misses you. STOP MAKING YOURSELVES TOO AVAILABLE. Start taking some “me” time between each relationship and do some introspection. You may realize it never

worked because of something about you and not the guy so do not be in denial. No one wants to be lonely but it is the best prescription some women could use at times. Learn to make yourself happy; learn to take care of yourself for you and for no one else. Sometimes you put yourself way out seeking the a

ttention of a "potential' mate and end up attracting what appears to be the "potential" mate and get trapped by the Pen-is power.

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“If another woman steals your man, there's no better revenge than letting her keep him. Real men can't be stolen” unknown

Keeping a man is something I am very passionate talking about. What is up with women trying to become exotic dancers so that men will stay?  If your not a good mother to his children, you do not take care of the house providing a good resting "nagging-less" home for him to come home to but your talking to your girlfriends about  ways your giving it up in the bedroom. A man will take it and allow you to go beyond your call of bedroom duty. Why not? He is a man and variety is the spice of life but rest assured that no matter how much you fling and dash he will go right outside that door if you do not create the necessary conditions for him to want to come home. Some women may argue that men are naturally born cheaters and I disagree. Women tend to rely on bedroom PHD to hold a man’s interest when at times the man needs someone to just reason with at his intellectual capacity. Different strokes for different folks but before you can say "fling up' and "hold him" in the same sentence try and find out what the man wants in the first place.

Women need to learn that they are their own enemies when it comes on to relationships. Some say all men are dogs but yet walk around looking for a dog I mean a man. To each his own. Women should not be so bitter against each other and measuring up passing silly comments like "what does he see on her'. again do you know what the man wants in the first place. Why do you generalize men then have high expectations of them at the same time. How realistic are your expectations in a relationship. Its like hearing women say they are looking for a successful man..tall handsome (you get the picture ) and my response is lovely but what are you bringing to the table? What would make a successful man even engage you in a simple conversation about the clouds? The answer is something about bedroom tatics or she is doing her thing "trying" to make it to the top too. So the difference is he is there and you are here so why should he look down here when he is up here? Time to come off your high horses or plastic pen-is ladies.

It's not about having the perfect relationship, it's about finding someone who matches you and will go through everything without giving up- unknown

Men don't have to be perfect to make women happy. All a man really needs to do is love her like he promised when they first dated.- unknown